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Thanks for the opportunity, David!

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Sep 19Liked by David McIlroy, Chris Anselmo

"Your voice is worth more than any metric." 100% agreed.

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Love this too!

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Thanks Dawn-Renee!

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Yes. Agreed!

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Thanks! 🙏

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Thanks Rick!

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Sep 19Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

Lovely piece, Chris! It's so true about how everyone's lives are messy. Great advice here.

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Thanks Evelyn! :)

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Sep 19Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

Thanks for this perspective. It's so easy to fall into the comparison trap. I appreciate the fresh guidelines and the reminders.

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Thanks Darrell!

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Sep 20Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

Funny how the things you need to hear start popping right when you start looking. Appreciating these reminders as I navigate new territory with my creative expression!

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Thanks Vivian! Glad it was helpful. Good luck with your new creative projects!

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Sep 20Liked by David McIlroy, Chris Anselmo

This was such a really, really good post.

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Thanks Juan!

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Thanks for writing it 😁

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Sep 20Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

Thanks David for this article,

In my worst times I tend to compare with people and feel bad about myself. "How can he or she have so many subscribers? How can she or he have a best seller book? What's wrong with me? I'm such a failure." I will say and feel depressed and beaten down.

Yours tips ring true, we need these constant reminders so we can keep learning and improving. That's all I want.

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This one was all Chris, Yannis! 😊

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Sep 22Liked by Chris Anselmo

Then thank you for bringing Chris. This article was brilliant.

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Thanks Yannis!

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Sep 19Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

Love this "We see everyone's external achievements, but we don't see their internal struggles." Everyone's life is messy - even if they've hidden the mess from the reader. This reminds me that it's okay to share failures as well as successes.

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Thanks Elizabeth!

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Sep 19Liked by David McIlroy, Chris Anselmo

Most powerful for me: #3 internal struggles and #6 refined success. The comparison game will take you down faster than anything. I'm glad to see this

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Thanks Ingrid!

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Sep 19Liked by David McIlroy, Chris Anselmo

So many excellent thoughts here... I needed to read this. Thanks Chris and David!

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Thanks John!

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Sep 19Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

"Comparison kills the joy of an art." This was comforting and motivational at the same time. As a relatively new writer, I needed something like this.

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Thanks Saurabh! Wishing you the best on your writing journey. You got this!

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Sep 19Liked by Chris Anselmo, David McIlroy

This right here:

The healthiest comparison we can make is between who we are today and who we were when we began our writing journey.

It works for anything in life, too!

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Sep 26Liked by Chris Anselmo

Point 5 is what it’s all about for me, comparing myself to past me and trying to do better. I heard someone on the Rich Roll podcast yesterday saying that basically happier people compare themselves to others far less.

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That's a great point and so true! I always feel happiest when I stop comparing.

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Thank you for reminding me that no one else can replicate what I bring to the table. No one else has my perspective. Having the most subscribers doesn't make someone happy or fulfilled. Yes, others have written about some of the same topics before but not one has my voice.

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Well said! Your voice is everything.

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Remembering our uniqueness is one of those things that can be easily ignored. When we find what makes us unique, creating becomes a much more fun thing to do.

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So true!

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Great advice. Reminds me of a quote I saw somewhere but can't remember who said it, it was something along the lines of "if you compare yourself to someone else, you have to be willing to take all of them" , you have to be aware of another person's circumstances. Maybe someone has more subscribers than me but they're working ten hours a day and losing sleep to make it happen. I can't expect to have the same growth if I'm not in those same circumstances.

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This is a FANTASTIC point. I've heard something along these lines before, but I can't remember who said it either. But this is so true!

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